Comments on: Baby, it’s cold outside! Plus a recipe.

By: Gina

Gina — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 21:40:41 +0000

I’ve been away from my computer and didn’t read your blog daily as usual. I am so very sorry. I can imagine how hard it would be for me and I can empathize even more.
Gina

By: dlyn

dlyn — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:38:12 +0000

I just stumbled across your blog from someone elses, but I wanted to tell you how sorry I am that you lost your Mom. Don’t supress your grieving – it is real and necessary.

I will be back to check out your blog some more – it looks like a good one!

By: sandy

sandy — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:15:29 +0000

Hello – and great to be visiting your site! I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I, too, lost mine – but it’s been 10 years ago, and it still feels like yesterday. I write about her throughout my blog.

This recipe is what we call Shepherd’s Pie! I make it all the time when I have leftover mashed potatoes. And I just throw in whatever I have in my fridge.

Blessings! Things will look brighter soon … Sandy

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 15:45:53 +0000

Hope your days get better. I understand about your relationship with your mother. Mine is the same way and that can’t help with a loss. I am giving you a big hug across the miles. Also, I have always thought I have SAD. But, like you, hate the label. Who isn’t a little SAD in January? It’s so blah. Better days are ahead of you.

Happy thoughts your way!

By: Victoria

Victoria — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 15:57:49 +0000

((((((Susan))))))

By: Marie

Marie — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 08:00:13 +0000

I’m very lucky in that my mom is still very much alive and with us. I am dreading the day when she is no longer here. I did lose my Aunt almost two years ago now . We were always very close and there is not a day that goes by without my thinking of her in some way. I think they are always with us, encouraging us, prodding us, willing us to go on. At first it is with sadness that we think of them, and a missing and longing, but with time those feelings are not as strong, although they never quite dissappear. I am glad that now I can think of the happy memories we built together rather then the sadness of my loss. Time is the great healer. (((hugs))) Tasty looking recipe! I Love cottage pie!

By: Sherry

Sherry — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 07:27:07 +0000

After my mom’s cancer came back for the 2nd time in 1994 I pretty much knew she was going to die sometime soon. Having this knowledge and being aware of it did absolutely nothing to prepare me for her death 8 months later. I hope you understand when I say this, but I actually felt some relief when she died. I didn’t know how to cope with waking up every day and knowing that she was going to die soon. And even after she died I didn’t immediately have a sense of overwhelming grief. I was still in college and I just wanted to get back to school and get on with living. Now I look back and realize that the pain and grief was so deep within me and hurt so much that I couldn’t let it out all at once. It had to come out in its own way and time. Someone had told me that it would take a year for me to really start feeling better. I remember rolling my eyes and thinking “yeah, right.” Here’s the thing – For the first year you remember, “oh, a year ago I was doing this with my mom, etc.” These memories creep up into everything you do and it’s hard! I was somewhat ok for the first year and then I started having physical symptoms because I had not let myself feel and experience grief. I realized I had come to a place in my life where I needed to deal with the pain I felt. Here is what I learned: Grief is not something that happens to you and then you get over it. Grief is a path that each of us must walk in our own time using our own abilities. So you might feel one way at three months, then feel better for two months, and then feel sad again. I don’t say this to discourage you, but to let you know that what you’re feeling is to be expected and that despite everything you will eventually feel better. It will just take time. Take care of yourself and don’t worry that you’re not grieving according to a “timeline.”

By: Kristi

Kristi — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 05:11:58 +0000

Hi Susan, I agree, it is so not fair that we were so close to having snow! When I looked at weatherbug this morning they made it sound like we had a good chance, but the rain disappeared =(

I’m sorry to hear about your mom. When did she pass? I lost my last Grandma this past March and I feel the same way. But just keep your head up and know that she would be so proud of you in all that you’ve done and are going to do.
Hugs to you,
~Kristi

By: Martha

Martha — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 00:56:20 +0000

Oh, gosh, no…It makes perfect sense to want to crawl into bed now. It’s winter…the holidays are over…it has been long enough for all to sink in. I will keep you in my thoughts. Be nice to yourself…you deserve it!! )
Martha

By: Laura

Laura — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 22:56:06 +0000

I loss my Mom back in 1991, she was 61 & I was 27. She never got to know my husband or my children & I so know what you mean about missing her & thinking about her so much.

Your trip to Paris is one my Mom would have LOVED!! I have a postcard her brother sent her during WWII. It is of the Eiffel tower. She had always wanted to visit Paris & see that beautiful sight for herself.

There are certain things I cook now that always make me think of her & send a flood of memories back to me.

I am with you in your missing & looking back time. If you need to drop me an email & know there is a “sister” in Illinois who misses her mom too & is willing to listen when you need a n understanding ear.

Laura